During a recent coaching conversation, my client expressed feeling deflated after facing rejection in her job search. It’s easy to feel down when things don’t go as planned, whether it’s missing out on a promotion, losing a sale, or not landing a client.

How Do You Deal with Rejection?

First, it’s okay to feel disappointed and take a moment to process those emotions. Then, try to CHOOSE a more OPTIMISTIC MINDSET and see the setback as an opportunity.

Not the Right Fit, Right Now

When something doesn’t go my way, I see it as a sign that it’s just not the right fit at this time. I’ve learned to embrace rejection as a path to something even better. To help reframe my mindset, I look back at past rejections that ultimately led to positive outcomes.

For example, in college, I applied for a co-op with the Forest Service that would have led to a permanent job upon graduation. When I wasn’t selected, I felt devastated. But two years later, I joined the Peace Corps, working and living in Malawi—a life-changing experience I would have missed if I had landed that job. Looking back, it’s clear that the Forest Service role wasn’t the right fit right then.

As Dr. Steve Maraboli puts it:

Look for the Learning

While rejection initially feels like failure, I challenge myself to ask, “What can I learn from this?” Try viewing FAIL as an acronym: First Attempt In Learning. If you didn’t get the job, close the sale, or secure the client, ask for feedback. Most people are willing to offer insights that can help you improve, but if feedback isn’t available, take time to self-reflect. Consider not only areas for improvement but also what went well—and how you can build on those strengths.

In summary, try reframing rejection as redirection and a valuable opportunity to learn. This shift in perspective can empower you to move forward with resilience and optimism.

Wishing you the best!